In order to move on you must understand why you felt how you did and why you no longer need to feel it. – Mitch Albom

It’s time to move on.  It’s easier said than done, and amazingly enough, very appropriate for today.  Most people think that you move on from big things.  Old jobs, relationships that have ended, or any other big thing like that.  But you can move on from little things too.

I had something happen this morning that really through me for a loop.  There were hurt feelings, there were tears (there are always tears, I cry at the drop of a hat) and there were feelings of rage, and hopelessness.  But as I said on Facebook, I am stronger than the crap life is dishing out.  It’s time to move on.

But then, something pretty amazing happened.  I started thinking about what bugged me so much.  I took a good hard honest look at why I was so bothered.  It was because I wasn’t being valued in particular situation.  I wasn’t being valued and I felt as if someone was trying to minimize my role and undermine me.

Those things all suck, but then after thinking about it more, I realized something super important.  Those weren’t my problems.  If someone doesn’t value me, that’s on them, not me.  My self-worth is not determined by what other people think about me.  And as far as minimizing my roll and undermine me.  Go right ahead.  I know the work I’ve done, and I’ve done it to the best of my ability.  I can be proud of that, and it doesn’t matter what anybody else thinks.

And just like that, I was able to move on.  I figured out why I was feeling the way I was, and I was able to move on from it.  Now I realize that this was a little issue, but it was still my issue.  But what I did can be applied to any situation.  Look at it as honestly as you can, and figure out why you’re feeling the way you are.  Once you do that, and you realize that you don’t need to feel that way will you be able to realize it’s time to move on.