Perhaps, we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done. – Rudy Francisco

Love ourselves so fiercely.  For most of us, there is probably nothing in this world that is harder to do.  Hate ourselves?  That’s easy?  Be disgusted with ourselves?  No problem.  Love ourselves so fiercely?  It’s just not happening.

I’ve talked endlessly about being our own best friend instead of our own worst enemy.  I only wish I would listen when I talk, lol.  I seem to have made a career out of doing dumb things that end up biting me in the backside.  And when I do, I spiral downward in a never ending tirade of self-loathing and recriminations.  If I’m showing anybody exactly how anything should be done, it’s how to hate me.  I don’t think I’m alone in this.

But why?  Why do we do this to ourselves.  Why don’t we love ourselves so fiercely?  Why are we not an example of how we should be treated? I wish I had an answer for why we don’t treat ourselves better, why we don’t love ourselves, but I don’t.  But what I do have, is a challenge for you, and it’s one I’m undertaking myself.  I am going to start loving myself so fiercely that I’m going to know what hit me.  I am going to treat myself better.  I am not going to berate myself when I make a mistake.  I’ll own it, I’ll fix it and I’ll move on.  I’m not going to hold on to what was, and I’m not going to search for what may be.  I’m going to focus on me.

Seriously – I’m going to do this, and I hope you will to.  If I don’t treat myself better, if I don’t love myself, why should I expect anybody else to treat me well or love me?  I shouldn’t.  More importantly, I shouldn’t want anybody around me who treats me the way I treat myself.  I’m holding out for better because I deserve better and so do you.  But it starts with you and me.  We need to love ourselves so fiercely first and foremost.