Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have. – Dale Carnegie

Everybody occasionally feels sorry for themselves, and I’m willing to bet that everyone had indulged in a good old fashioned pity party a time or two. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but when you continually feel sorry for yourself and through continual pity parties, you are harming only yourself.

Think about it, when you feel sorry for yourself, you’re reinforcing the negative feelings that you already have. Instead you should be looking for ways to turn your thinking around. You want to get in the habit of thinking positively, not having a pity party and thinking negatively.

Things go wrong, plans go awry and to put it bluntly, shit happens.  And no, when things go wrong you’re probably not going to stand there and say “Oh goody, this is a total catastrophe!” with a giant grin on your face.  You’re going to get angry, and upset and that’s okay.  That’s healthy! There is a difference between getting angry in the moment and then wallowing in it and throwing yourself a pity party.  Just don’t do it. All you’re doing is setting up a really bad habit.  Acknowledge the anger, fear, sorrow or whatever, and find a way to move past it.  Set up the habit of positive thinking instead.