Life is not what it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference. – Virginia Satir

It’s not fair.  I can’t count the number of times my students have said it, my kids have said it, and I’ve said it.  Well that’s what life is.  It is what it is, and often times, it’s not fair.  How you react to that “unfairness” makes all the difference.  When life doesn’t go the way you want it to, or the way you think it should, what do you do?  Do you go with the flow, or do you spend all your time focusing on the unjustness of it all?

You can dig in your heels and cry “It’s not fair,” all you want, but what good is that going to do?  Are the fairness police going to come racing to your side and make it all better?  I’m guessing no, but if they do, could you send them my way because we need to talk.  Or, do you look at what’s happening and figure out how you can use it to your advantage?  I’m hoping you do the latter.

I had a resounding it’s not fair moment a few weeks ago.  I was mad, I was sad, and I was seriously floundering.  And yes, I did say it’s not fair once or twice, but I quickly moved on trying to find the good in the situation.  I did what I could to work with what I had.  Is everything the way I want it to be?  No, of course not, but it’s better than it could have been.  So the next time you’re ready to say it’s not fair, check yourself and the situation and figure out what you can do with what you have been given.