You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events. – Joel Osteen

I through a huge pity party for myself today. The why isn’t important. What is important is that instead of feeling sorry for myself, I should have been thinking of this quote.  One shift in thought, and it’s not happening to me, it’s happening for me.

If I had spent even a tenth of the time I spent feeling sorry for myself shifting my thoughts, I would have had a much better day. Instead I went into full blown poor me mode.  Guess what?  It didn’t make me feel one bit better, in fact, it made me feel one hundred percent worse.  I felt bad, and I felt angry and resentful at the people who were throwing up roadblocks in my life.  But what I should have been doing is realizing that every roadblock was making me stronger and more powerful as I found my way past them.  These roadblocks weren’t happening to me. They happened for me.

But hey, l am not perfect, I make mistakes and now, I’m moving on.  Every mistake is a lesson learned, and I’m going to work to remember it doesn’t happen to me and it doesn’t happen to you.  It happens for me, it happens for you and it happens for us.  We take what life is throwing at us and we use it to grow stronger!